My Dearest Philosopher,
Between our month long family vacation and the start of your new job, it has been a while since my last letter to you. What I thought I wanted to write about a month ago has now taken on a new form. It’s funny how letters can do that. Now that our much needed vacation is over, reality has set in. Super excited that the renovations to our new home are almost complete. Our baby seems to be adjusting well to the new environment. A home that brings us closer to family, enables us to lead a more prayerful and holy life, and gives our baby plenty of space to explore is a dream come true. It took us going on vacation to put things in their proper perspective.
Wow! Not a day goes by that I do not thank God for you, our baby, and the many gifts he has given us. Yesterdays evening stroll on the grounds was glorious!! It reminded me of our time in Europe. To be close to water, to see trees, to be surrounded by God’s beautiful creation inspires me to be a better wife and mother. Your idea to have a picnic this weekend with a nice bottle of wine, various meats/cheeses, and fruit sounds very romantic:) Spending quality time with you always gives me butterflies!!
A wonderful memory quickly comes to mind of the wedding anniversary we recently celebrated. Dancing to our wedding song with the waves crashing at our feet, under the starry sky was priceless. That evening had been the first time, since the birth of our child we were able to have a date night (in-house movies/dinner parties don’t count). I am grateful that your mom was there to watch our little munchkin!!!
Refreshed and rejuvenated from our wonderful family vacation enables me to read your last letter from an entirely new perspective. At the time it was written, red flags certainly went off in my head. Though whimsical, I could read between the lines. I realized that there were areas within our marriage that were not being addressed. The stress of the move, the start of a new job, feelings of absolute exhaustion, our pray life as a family lacking, along with earnestly trying to follow God’s will with every major decision made, left us open to attacks from the devil.
After a grace-filled conversation with you and a priest (separately of course), it is clear that God has shed new light on our marriage and the mystery of the human person. I can’t thank the priest enough for recommending the book, The 5 Love Languages, by Dr. Gary Chapman. When I look back at past disagreements, I finally understand why we were both so frustrated with the other. We were giving love the way we wanted to receive love not realizing that the other really wanted to receive love in a different way. How truly enlightening this has all been!!
After reading the book, I have learned that you are “bilingual” in both acts of service and physical touch. Interestingly, the exact opposite love languages for me, except for maybe physical touch;) It is the love language, acts of service, that I need to make more of a concerted effort. Scoring a 1 (the lowest) for this language of love has made me more aware that you feel loved and appreciated when ordinary tasks are completed. By communicating with me in the future, the burden so to speak, will be lifted. You will no longer feel you need to do something because you think I may not want to do it. Know if I want to help, I am helping because I love you!!!
My love…through prayer, the Holy Spirit has helped me to understand ways in which I can love you better. I look forward to beginning this new chapter with you. I look forward to loving you in the way in which God created you. You are my heart!!!
I await your next letter…