My Dearest Philosopher,
As our 4th Wedding Anniversary approaches, I reminisce to the beginning. God brought us to the Eternal City on different paths: you discerning a vocation to the priesthood and me, well I could say my studies and work at the Vatican, but I would be lying to myself if I didn’t also say to heal and to discern God’s calling in my life. Who could have ever imagined that I would meet the man I was destined in the Book to marry?! Powerful encounters in the Holy Land and the unfortunate death of your father, led you to a new understanding that Christ was in fact calling you to a vocation of marriage. Your decision to call me that summer set our entire life together in motion.
When people say courting is a joke…a thing of the past, I laugh wholeheartedly! It was your love and respect for me through the asking of my father to date, later for my hand in marriage, and then waiting (YES WAITING) until after we married to have sex that is the glue that binds us together. When I stood before you at the altar, I knew that I would love and remain faithful to you until my last breath. Heck, I fell in love with you before I even kissed you!! Though well-versed in the Theology of the Body, I am ashamed to admit that I have not always known the best ways to express my love to you in this way. I thank God for your strength, patience, and encouragement in this particular area of our marriage. It has been your unwavering love for me that has helped me to value sex, pleasure, and intimacy as they should be—always wed to the other; never divorced from each other. When I look into your eyes, I see the man I married, my complement, not a mere reflection of myself.
It is a wonderful revelation when you realize that you are loved, cherished, and adored by your spouse. My love, you can read me so well. You are the only man (my first and last) that has ever sought to know and to love me as the woman God created me to be; this is further confirmation that you are the man God created for me. When our souls embrace, I know I have finally been honest with myself—allowing myself to be vulnerable, emotionally transparent, able and willing to love and be loved. I no longer look inward at myself, but see you…my husband…my better half in front of me! You bring such joy into my life; I would be remiss not to tell you this again and again. Through your love I have come to better know God’s Love for me.
Our children are a beautiful witness of our love and marriage. It is our trust in God, His Providence, and in each other that bring the peace and the joy found in our home. The children flourish knowing they are loved! They see the love that we share with each other and desire the same Good in their lives! As our culture continues to decline with the efforts of those who are actively seeking to destroy its very fabric—human life and the marriage between a man and a woman—let us strive for our marriage and our family to act as a beacon of hope for our children and everyone we encounter. With the grace of God, we will succeed!!
You are my heart and the means to my salvation! I love you with all that I am!!